"One of the greatest inventions nerds ever came up with was a blinding ray that makes Asian girls see whatever you want."I didn't write this caption or take this picture.
I found it on Vice Magazine's website, Viceland.com.
It's not from Japan (Actually, it looks like Vancouver, Canada)
Everyone seems to have an opinion on this kind of thing here.
Comments?
16 comments:
Blah, yeah that's the eternal question: Do you feel happy for the nerds who can finally get girlfriends? Or do you feel sorry for/annoyed with the Japanese girls who don't know better and date them?
Personally, I don't care all that much. As long as they treat their girlfriends' well and everyone's happy...what's the problem?
It does annoy me that the same doesn't work with foreign women in Japan. They need to shine that 'blinding ray' on Japanese men. It's not fair. : )
That's exactly what I think. As long as they're happy, they're a great match. But sometimes I still cringe when I see an obese, greasy 35 year old with Marilyn Manson boots and some hoodie with random Asian-looking print (dragons, anyone?) walking around with a regular-looking university student type. Good luck to them, though.
The last comment was funny!! But girls have it easier than guys in almost every other country in the world. If a girl wants attention, all she has to do is move to a country where guys are less shy. Even a short vacation can make you feel attractive again. Guys looked at me and smiled at me and talked to me in Hong Kong and I came back feeling more cute and feminine. Haha.
But do you really not get hit on at all in Japan?? You are a cute girl! I'll bet you get attention here in Japan.
I met a few nerds dating gorgeous japanese girls. I wouldn't have even cared if the guys were actually nice. But they were all the biggest jerks. They talked about their girlfriends in English (which they didn't understand) right in front of them. Things like "I like asian women because hey are more submissive." GROSS!! They were always into death metal, dragons and cargo pants. Double gross!
Ha. I've never seen that, but that's the stereotype. It's not usually true. Most of the time, you either see two completely regular-looking people together or you see people like the people in the picture above: a very average-looking girl and a really gross-looking guy. It's just shocking because the fact that he has a girlfriend at all is surprising.
The worst are those guys who speak badly of their girlfriends right in front of them. I met a few of those in Tokyo. Gross. But I've also met tons and TONS of girls here who have foreign boyfriends in another country and new foreign boyfriends here. I guess as long as everybody is happy....
Aww thanks for the compliment but I mostly only get hit on my drunk men. I guess that's the only time they feel brave enough to talk to me. It's annoying.
What I hate is when those same 'loser' guys go to impovershed countries in SE Asia as sex tourists or because they're shopping for submissive wives..That's just taking advantage of someone's poverty.
I figure Japan's fair game...but sometimes I want to take those girls aside and ask something like, "What in the world do you see in that guy?" Because I'm really curious as to what they think! Do they just not recognize that the guy is totally weird? Or is it that they're really tollerant and chose to ignore it? Or maybe a combo of both?
Yeah... but usually the women in SE Asia aren't actually the truly destitute ones. They speak English and are generally educated enough to be able to meet the foreign men in the first place. They're usually not prostitutes in the strict sense. In places like Thailand, Cambodia, Vietnam and certain parts of China, it's the middle class girls who try to get the foreign guys (ANY foreign guy) and the reason is the same sugar-daddy reasons that girls do this all over the world.
In Africa, there were some old and unattractive but really rich UN ladies with cute, young, fit boyfriends. I think that's kind of taking advantage of your financial position, too, but it's interesting that in some parts of the world, guys can get sugarmothers. This happens in Jamaica, too. Though for some reason, it looks worse when then man is the rich one. I don't know why, because both are kind of terrible. But as long as everyone is happy, I guess.
I actually think that the language barrier does a lot in people's favor!! All the boorish comments get lost in translation. The blissfully ignorant love between people who don't understand each other's different languages... It's kind of a good idea. They probably love each other more purely than those of us who can see each other's faults and cringe and grow to resent each other. Ha. I dumped a boy once over stupid comments that made me lose respect for him.
Drunk Japanese guys talk to foreign girls without shyness. But the trains in Tokyo end so early that by the time you meet someone nice and have a short conversation, you have to go. (In Tokyo, depending where you live, you often have to head home at 10:30) It's annoying.
Another annoying thing is the "Mail tomo" phenomenon. You meet a great person (guy or girl) and get their text address. You text each other every day and become friends. In any other country, you'd end up going out for lunch or meeting in real life again. Not in Japan. I have about 8 friends who I have only met once even though they send me cell phone emails every day about 12 times a day. I want to be more than PEN PALS!!! Ha.
HOW TO PICK UP GUYS IN JAPAN
By A British Girl
A British girl came in my coffee shop one day and was talking about boys here. She was really cute. She said that the way she meets guys is by asking for directions. If you can pull off "cute and lost" and if you speak a bit of Japanese, just pick a cute boy and ask him where something is. Japanese people are almost always too polite to just leave you. Sometimes he'll be busy and quickly tell you while running off to work. But sometimes he'll take you there and talk to you. Then you just ask for his meishi and mail him saying something to the effect of "Thank you for being such a gentleman" and if he writes back, tell him that you'd like to buy him a drink sometime as a token of thanks. She says this works.
I've never tried it, but I could see it really working.Try it, Reannon!! And tell me if it works.
I'll try it too!
Reannon, it totally does work both ways. I think there's just a huge cultural barrier between Western girls and Japanese boys when it comes to flirting. Nobody knows what to do on either side. I was just talking to a Japanese guy about how sad it is to watch all my magnificent flirting skills crumble into dust in this country, like how if you sweetly nudge your knee against a Japanese boy's under the table, he'll generally be like "Ah, gomen!" and sweetly move away to give you space -- you know what I'm talking about??? I gave up a long time ago and now I just roll with the Japanese way, whereby he has two beers and then starts boldly declaring his attraction to you like it ain't no thang. Oh Japan! If that's how you like it, okay I guess. (I'm totally generalizing obviously, of course it depends on the guy and blah blah blah.)
For real though, if I see a cute boy when I'm out I usually just ask him for a light and go from there. That's no help if you don't smoke, though.
Hahaha! The moving away thing is SO true!! Even with friends, nobody will even hug you or let your shoulders touch unless they've been an international student and are familiar with foreign ways.
For a country full of people who smash against complete stranger on the trains, they sure don't like to touch others. My knee-touch flirting skills have vanished here, too. Haha. We're going to go back home and not even know how to act anymore.
Guys turn red/purple when they drink here. I don't like drunk guys back home, but I like them even less here.
This is an interesting phenomenon. I don't understand why this happens..? I don't think I am a nerd (I could be wrong!) but I had such ridiculous success with women in Japan. It seemed like they thought I was nicer, more exciting and adventurous because I was from the US. Women that, back home, would be so out of my league I wouldn't even try talking to would practiclly throw themselves at me. This was nice for a change. Also, it was nice to date women that did not seem to have "issues". Everyone I have ever dated in the US has had so much baggage and so many issues. Maybe because of the language barrier these things just didn't come up..? This might sound terrible but after going to Japan one of my goals now is to find a nice Japanese girlfriend. Also, I should add that I am not a fat, old troll- I'm 32, 6', very athletic, have a normal haircut (no greasy ponytail!) and have been told I look like a young Daniel Craig.
@ Henry
Your last line sounds like a cheesy personals ad.
There are stupid and intelligent people in all areas of the world. There are funny and serious people. There are creeps and there are wonderful people and there are balanced people and there are histrionic idiots. In every country in the whole world.
If you think that Japanese women have less baggage than other women, you're making broad generalizations. I don't even know exactly what you mean when you say "baggage and issues" but I know that when you start generalizing about a whole country of people, you're not being very bright.
I'm not going to insult you, though, because you left a comment that was polite.
Good luck with your goals, guy.
Dang... I was just trying to say I experienced this from a male perspective and wish I understood it. I didn't mean to sound like a personals ad (just wanted to say I am a normal white guy) or generalize an entire country. I did allude to the fact that the language barrier may have kept "issues" from coming up. Issues can be anything from constant complaining, neediness, thinking everyone should think/act/live a certain way, phobias, disorders etc etc etc. From a male perspective my experience in Japan was so overwhelmingly positive; I just wanted to share that and you put a spin on it like I am a jerk. Thanks. The way you responded back was so negative.
Wow, Henry. I was making effort to be nice and not make fun.
I'll tell you that I absolutely agree with you that a language barrier does wonders for a relationship. It's like rose-colored glasses that you don't even know are there. You get all of the good and none of the bad.
I don't know how it would work out in the long-term, though. I think I'd get bored. What do you think about that?
At the start of most relationships it is hard to know what you are getting into because most people are on their best behavior; language barrier or not. But if things are going well and keep going well for long enough to feel that she is my equal and could be together forever I don't think I would get bored. In the spring when it has been so sunny, warm and beautiful outside do you get bored of being outside enjoying it? I think it is the same. In any relationship eventually something will be an issue but how (or if) you move forward shows if it can work in the long term.
Also, I really love your blog. It is really great and informative.
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